Books I need to read before GRL

OKAY… If you look at the list below and then compare that with my track-record for reading books, you will see that there is a high probability that I’m on drugs while making this list of “read BEFORE GRL”… HAHAHA.

In theory, I would LOVE to read these before I go to Atlanta because I’d like to meet these authors. (Or, in the case of some, I promised to read them before October 17.) The books on the list are one ones I currently own or have pre-ordered. I probably have more I’d like to read, but I don’t plan on buying MORE before GRL. I might just end up buying books down in Atlanta.

My list: (*Note: they may NOT get read in this order, but I will THINK about reading them in this order.)

1.     FINISH Second Chances by T.A. Webb

2.     Play Me I’m Yours by Madison Parker

3.     Sno Ho by Ethan Day

4.     Zombie Boyz That group of guys. You know who they are.

5.     Aaron by J.P. Barnaby

6.     18% Gray by Anne Tenino

7.     Catch My Breath by MJ O’Shea

8.     Adder by Ally Blue

9.     Tell Me It’s Real by TJ Klune

10. Trust Me by Jeff Erno

11. From The Ashes by Kayla Jameth

12. Stubborn Heart by Ken Murphy

13. Love Like Water by Rowen Speedwell

14. Galley Proof by Eric Arvin

15. Keeping Promise Rock by Amy Lane

16. Cut and Run

17. Pitch by Will Parkenson (pre-ordered)

18. Don’t trust the Cut by Kade Boehme (I actually need to buy it first.)  Read 10/4/13

19. Disasterology 101 by Taylor Donovan (I don’t have this one either)

WOW. So these are ALL the books I desire to read before October 17^th, PLUS I want to finish writing Names Can Never Hurt Me. HAHHAHAHAA. I crack myself up! Who knows what I will read and write between now and then, right? What I need to do is just simply try. I need to KEEP WRITING! Everyday! And maybe when NCNHM is submitted I can take a week and read my eyes out. IDK.

All I know is that there are a large number of authors I would like to meet, take a picture of or with, and maybe get an autograph. See, I can be a “fan” too! :p So who does THIS author want to meet? Well, all of them, really. 100 isn’t too hard to meet in 4 days. But if I had to name names I would say the following are the ones I have heard of the most, read or plan to read soon, talked to online, or have met already.

Eric Arvin, J. P. Barnaby, Ally Blue, Kade Boehme, Mary Calmes, Heidi Cullinan, Ethan Day, Taylor V. Donovan, Jeff Erno, Jacob Flores, Andrew Grey, Laura Harner, Kaje Harper, Jordan L. Hawk, Kiernan Kelly, K-lee Klein, TJ Klune, Geoffrey Knight, Marguerite Labbe, Z.A. Maxfield, K.A. Mitchell , Cherie Noel, M.J. O'Shea, Madison Parker, Erica Pike, Rick R. Reed, Abigail Roux, Marie Sexton, Rowan Speedwell, Damon Suede, Anne Tenino, Aleksandr Voinov, Eden Winters, T.A. Webb, Sara York, …

I asked on FB who was going but not listed on the GRL “author” list. (Because I’m going but I’m not an official “author”.) I forget who said they would be there. You can comment below. Remind me how stupid I can be sometimes. I am looking forward to meeting ALL these people and more.

If you are a fan and not an author, remember I will be there! I can’t officially walk around with swag and hand out or sell books and stuff. (I didn’t sign up for that because I’m poor this year. Maybe next year!) But I can sign stuff if you bring it. I might even have a pen to sign with and hand you to take home. :D I will post a picture of some T-shirts I’ll be wearing, and maybe even a picture of myself on FB. You’ll be able to find me. If you are going to be there, let me know and I’ll look for you! I am making a list. (I didn’t look at the FB list before writing this blog.)

I have awesome fans. I know this! You keep encouraging me over and over and over again! You keep buying my books and asking for more. So, I’m trying. I am working on one now. I picked NCNHM because it was the one that was the closest to being finished and the characters, Nick and RC, were talking to me a TON lately. Okay? This one will be funny and serious at the same time. I hope you like it. I am having some fun writing it.

Blurb:

Dubbed a “player” early on in life, constant sex has never been a problem for Nick—until now.

Nick Jenkins couldn’t remember a time when he wasn’t popular, when he wasn’t the best looking guy in the room, nor could he recall ever having to coax a woman into bed with him. And recently, Nick even added guys to the list of “been there—done that” when kissing Corey on a dare led to much more and on several occasions. His reputation to “screw anything” was well known, and he didn’t care. So why was the attention of someone new causing such consternation?

RC was a mystery from the moment they met. A frequent customer where Nick worked, getting to know RC was interesting, yet incremental due to the fact that he wasn’t in the “in crowd.” RC was overweight, always sweaty, and lived up to the nickname “scruffy dude.” Still, Nick could not let go of his deep longing for friendship, even if that friendship was with a loser.

Then, Nick finds out his new friend is gay. Will Nick look past the superficial and take hold of a connection deeper than he’s ever known before? Or will external pressures of social conformity win out—snuffing the fire before it ignites his soul.

Word count 55.3k and counting.

Well, That’s all for now! The Cost of Loving will be available in 24 days! GRL is in 86 days. If you buy a paperback from Dreamspinner Press, the first 20 are already signed. (As far as I know. I signed vellum sheets for that.) OR you can bring it to be personalized. (I am bringing a few of my favorites to have signed. Crossing Border by ZA Maxfield is one.) Or I can sign your copy of When Love Is Not Enough, or My Roommate’s a Jock. I’ll sign whatever you want! Even the shirt on you back. LOL!!!! I’d love to meet those fans and readers who make my dream possible—writing!

Laterz,

Wade

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August 16th is the day! Release... has never felt so sweet.

Yes, after TWO FREAKIN' LONG YEARS The Cost of Loving will finally be coming out! In fact, it was listed on Dreamspinner's "coming soon" page today! This has been one of those books that has been a frustration, a letdown, a challenge, and a learning experience.

First, the cover... Done by Enny Kraft and gorgeous!

The cover was done LAST SUMMER! And like an idiot I revealed it to the world. NEVER DO THIS! If you are an author, revealing the cover without a contract is NOT GOOD. I was waaaay to hopeful and not smart about it. It got people all excited. They loved the cover, and then the release didn't come, and still didn't, and wasn't going to happen soon. It was very disappointing. For me as well as for you. I REALLY thought TCOL would have come out last fall. I really did. I thought, "I have an editor. She'll take, what, a couple weeks? I'll self-publish. It will be cake!" Well, my cake looked like o pool of melted ice-cream. She (the editor) took over six months! The Cost of Loving was a nightmare of grammar problems and plot details. I had to rewrite two chapters. Then the ending was NOT what readers want and I had to rethink it. I spent lots of time (and money) to get this book "ready" to submit again. It had been rejected three times at this point. (The point where I decided I needed a professional editor.) Authors and rejection, although they seem to go along together often, do NOT like each other. We don't mix. There is seething hatred for the word "rejection", yet one we can't avoid and have to tolerate and accept else we drown in despair. So, I prematurely released the cover and the book never came out. I think I crushed everyone. So-I'm learning. Forgive me, but I am learning.

It was also a big letdown to have written something very close to my heart and hear from an editor it (basically) sucks. When I was rejected (3 times) no one said WHY. Well, all the little things that added up to big things that the editor found wrong told me why. I can't write! Well, I can, but I can't edit worth crap! It is really hard for me to notice the missing details and character issues, not to mention the grammar mistakes. So, more learning for Wade! And the editor's comments and corrections came not to long after I had gone over editor revisions with DSP for Jock. So I was seeing patterns that I have. Things I ALWAYS get wrong. I have a list now. Words I misspell. Words I use wrong. The list is way too long. The next challenge will be seeing if my "learning process" took as I write the next one. I'm working on Names Can Never Hurt Me. It's at 48k; half-way done. We shall see if my editorial experience paid off. PLUS, I'm taking a class this fall--Modern English Grammar--so maybe I will learn a thing or two about grammar. IDK.

Anyway.... My release day is AUGUST 16, 2013! The Cost Of Loving. HERE is the eBook link. The paperback says it has 350 pages. A long book! Enny Kraft is the cover designer. So glad to see her name listed!

This is the book blurb:

Matt Dixon, a young firefighter, is the golden child of his family, and he never dreamed that coming out would challenge more than the way his church sees him. 

For years, Matt has led a double life hoping to avoid ridicule. When a self-righteous pastor’s statements provoke him to defend his recently deceased best friend’s honor and subsequently out himself, he suffers the brutal aftermath of his revelation. Everyone in his life, including his family and his new lover, Darian, must deal with the ramifications as Matt struggles to come to terms with guilt, shame, and his very belief in God. 

Darian Weston lost his fiancé when Jamie took his life, and his feelings for Matt added guilt to his burden of grief. Confused and lonely, Darian clings to Matt despite his inner strife. But small-town realities keep intruding, and if Matt and Darian hope to make a life together, they must first take a stand for what they believe in, even if they fear the cost.

There IS a "pre order" button; I didn't see it the first time. :p

Thanks for your patience and support. Without YOU, the readers and fans, I'm not sure I could have made it this far. Thank you! Thank you! You are the best!

Hugs,
Wade

Making a Name for Myself

How does one make a name for themselves? I don't know. I did read a blog (yesterday, I think,) that Jacob Flores wrote about creating an online presence and the importance of it, especially for a writer. I can relate! It made me think about how hard it is to GET an audience. I write blogs, but really very few people read them. Yes, I have fans, but in the scheme of things even a few hundred is laughable compared to the amount of readers there are in the world. This does NOT mean that I am ungrateful for those I have, don't hear that, but if I am going to make it as a successful writer, I need to have a larger, growing fan-base. I have to start with a good story. I write it. Then I have to get a publisher to accept it. Often times a publisher is considering the "salability" of it. If it WILL sell, (in their opinion,) then they are more likely to contract it. (See, it all really does come down to money at some level.) If they contract it and it is not selling, then the likelihood of buying the next novel diminishes. So part of being "famous" is learning how to play the game enough to establish a fan-base and a market for my stuff. It never starts with "write it and they will come." In the real world the author has to establish their abilities first. If I, (or any author,) knock their socks off, then at some point I can write whatever I want and the readers will buy it. I'm not to that point yet. I am in some sense because I do have about 150 readers/fans who seem to thirst for my words. You are the ones that keep me going. I DID sell 1000s of copies of "Jock"(My Roommate's a Jock? Well, Crap!), but of those 1000s how many are true fans and how many thought, "Eh, Jock was good, but i'm not really interested in the author THAT much to read about suicide."(Because I know that thought happens.)

When Love is Not Enough (WLINE) is not only about suicide. It is about loss. It is about choices and pressure. It is about acceptance and a strong desire for parental approval. My fear is that people are so scared of WLINE that they shy away and in doing so will not want to buy or read the sequel. The Cost of Loving (TCOL) is my next release. It is coming soon. August 2013!! If you don't read WLINE, would you read TCOL? I DID try very hard to include enough backstory and references from WLINE to make the book pretty stand-aloneish. I think, and the DSP editor thought, that it was done well enough to be read on it's own for those who did not read the first book. It picks up the very next day after WLINE. For those who haven't read WLINE, this is the BEST time to read it. If you read WLINE now, then you will not have to wait for the sequel, the continuation, very long. I have fans who have been waiting for Matt and Darian for 2 years and they are still excited and anticipating it. They haven't given up on me. It was totally NOT my intent to wait this long. I am so sorry for that. But I think that it is coming out at the best time. It is a MUCH better story than it was 2 years ago. I have worked long and hard on it to get it where it is now. I spent $2000 on editing. I put sweat and tears into this. (No blood.) It is a very personal story and even now, two years later, rips my heart out to read it.

Jock was terrific because it got my name out there on a wider scale. Many more people read that then WLINE. But I don't want you to judge all my writing based on Jock. That was my light "break" when I had been writing dark stuff for too long. In theory, I want book 3 to me my magnum opus, but I think that is putting undue pressure on myself. I have to let the words fall where they may. I am technically working on three books at the same time. Right now, Names Can Never Hurt Me is the one on the tip of my brain. The characters (Nick and RC,) are talking to me so I just want to let it happen. What will I publish next all depends on which characters make their presence known long enough to finish a book. My GOAL was to finish writing two books this year. So far, I have never done that. I wrote WLINE in  2010. I wrote the first draft of TCOL in 2011. I wrote Jock in 2012. What have I written in 2013? Nothing. Not fully. I have loads of ideas, and I started writing 2 last fall, but I have yet to complete one. The goal is 2. Can I do it? IDK. Right now I am just trying to allow my creative mind to flow because i have a habit of squelching creativity due to pressure I put on myself. I am really my OWN worst enemy.

Speaking of being hard on myself.... I all too often compare myself to others and I can't figure out how people do it! How do authors find time to write? How do moms find time for themselves when they work and raise children? How does anyone make time to sleep and eat and write and take care of a family? I DON'T KNOW! My "pendulum" swings between Family & Myself. There are times when I am totally on top of taking care of the kids, the finances, the house, the laundry, the cooking etc, but I take NO TIME for myself. None! Then I swing the other way and I am thinking only about ME. And when I say ME, I mean writing because writing is what I want to spend ALL my free time doing. But when I spend ALL my time writing, then nothing else gets done. And sometimes, when writing, I get angry when I am interrupted. I want silence to allow the words to flow.

But see, these extremes both have issues. At the moment, I think my pendulum is close to the center of the curve. I am working on the balance of writing/ me-time and family. This is the biggest challenge I think I've given myself because I am trying to juggle it all. THEN in late August/September I start a college class. Can I add that and not go insane? IDK. All I know is that I have to make this work. I have to find time to do ALL of it at the same time. A little bit everyday. It helps that my son says he is proud of me. It REALLY helps. My children all seem to understand that I have to write or nothing else gets published. Eventually, I hope to have that same support from my husband. So far, it's not there. He is getting there. When I actually made a paycheck over $40.00 I think he started thinking of writing as a job. (See, all back to money.) So I need to keep writing and publishing so that maybe one day he will take me seriously. Maybe one day HE will say he is proud of me. Right now, I am just super thankful for my son. I need him and love him more than anything. (Well, I love my daughters too. I can't forget them, but they are younger and don't understand my dreams like my son does.)

Back to the subject of making a name for myself. Jacob, on his blog, talks about interacting online and the significance of getting to know fans and people in general as opposed to self-promotion tactics. I try not to ONLY self promote because as Jacob points out, it is really annoying. I have (sometimes) "friended" someone online and the first thing I get is an e-mail or a post on my wall thanking me for the friendship and a link to where I can check out their books. REALLY? I kind of hate that. I don't want to be like that. I try NOT to self promote all the time. I post reviews because I find them exciting. I post news of my upcoming book because I need to let you all know it is coming. But mainly I post links to my blog. This blog. The blog only about 50 people read. How to I grow a fan base?

I am going to try and talk about the blog on FB. Problem is that not all of you have an FB page. Some are just on Twitter. Some are just one GR. How do I hit everyone? IDK.

This is the book I am working on: Name Can Never Hurt Me.

Dubbed a “player” early on in life, constant sex has never been a problem for Nick—until now.

Nick Jenkins couldn’t remember a time when he wasn’t popular, when he wasn’t the best looking guy in the room, nor could he recall ever having to coax a woman into bed with him. And recently, Nick even added guys to the list of “been there—done that” when kissing Corey on a dare led to much more and on several occasions. His reputation to “screw anything” was well known, and he didn’t care. So why was the attention of someone new causing such consternation?

RC was a mystery from the moment they met. A frequent customer where Nick worked, getting to know RC was interesting, yet incremental due to the fact that he wasn’t in the “in crowd.” RC was overweight, always sweaty, and lived up to the nickname “scruffy dude.” Still, Nick could not let go of his deep longing for friendship, even if that friendship was with a loser.

Then, Nick finds out his new friend is gay. Will Nick look past the superficial and take hold of a connection deeper than he’s ever known before? Or will external pressures of social conformity win out—snuffing the fire before it ignites his soul.

Other thoughts that I want to talk about in a future blog are GRL and who I want to meet, the release date of TCOL, and the reluctance I have to post a picture online (So people know who I am.) What is something YOU all want to talk about? Comment.

~Wade

My life as a serial killer.

So, I’ve been addicted lately to the show Dexter. I don’t know what possessed me to watch it exactly; all I know is that there were several people I know who said they liked it and I thought, “what the heck, I’m sick, I’ll watch it.” (Except I think I started before I was sick, idk.) Whatever or however I started doesn’t matter the point is I got hooked. I mean HOOKED!!! This is a great show. I was sucked in at the start. Which, let’s face it, is the point of a pilot. If the pilot of a new TV show doesn’t do it then that show fails. Totally. There have been pilots that have not done it for me and friends swear I have to give the show another try. True Blood I could NOT get into. Just… um, NO. I thought it was poor acting and bad plot. Meh, so-so writing. Just not my bag. Then I tried Walking Dead. I couldn’t do it. MAYBE I’ll try again. People tell me a lot “you’ll love it!” Really?? Okay, maybe I’ll try again. Sometime. And even Supernatural was not all that and a bag of chips. So, for some reason I started on Dexter.

Season 1. Awesome! Sucked me in and kept me there on the edge of my seat. Fresh, new, and somewhat unpredictable. I like to be surprised. It was good!

Season 2 & 3: Good. I was somewhat let down because season 1 was so great that the OKAYNESS of 2&3 just had me watching to see what happened next. I still liked it. I still wanted to watch, but it wasn’t that same “awesome” level as season 1.

Then I got to season 4. OH MY GOSH!!!! One word—Brilliant! Written so freakin’ well! On the edge of my seat. HAD to watch the next episode. Heart pounding in anticipation. It was GREAT! Could not get better.

Season 5… hahhaha. The word that came to mind was FUN. This show is simply FUN. Which sounds so odd since it is about a serial killer. Dexter is just plain fun. I loved this season! Different twists. Unpredictable. Fun!

Now I am up to season 6. I am slowing down because there are not that many seasons left. I don’t want to run out too fast. I have to make it last. Plus, after watching Season 5, I don’t want a let down. And I don’t want to lose the rush I felt watching 5. So, I’m taking a break.

While I break, I’m gonna write.

It is funny that what comes to mind is a blog on how my life is like Dexter’s. The problem Dexter had with Rita was he never showed his true self. Partly, Dexter feared that if Rita knew, or the people in his life “knew”,  then they would hate him, despise him and reject him. I see that in ME. I have this whole other side of ME that I never show. Or hadn’t shown to people in years. They only saw the side I chose to let out. It is not my “dark passenger”like Dexter's, but it is a passenger of sorts that some people will not get, & will not understand. Maybe I could call it my “kinky passenger.” (Not that I write BDSM, I'm just sayin'...) Not ALL writers of gay fiction write sex scenes. True. But a fair number of them do. Or romance writers of any genre whether it is straight or gay. If you mention “romance” at all, the assumption is “SEX”. Am I wrong? The stigma that M/M romantic fiction has to struggle to get past is that it is all about sex and there is no plot. I BEG TO DIFFER. Although I have read plenty out there that is focused on the sensuality, the plots are getting more involved all the time. Authors are writing better novels. Publishers, with some exceptions, are publishing better books. It is NOT about the sex, it is about the plot, the characters, and the development of the story.

For me, it is always about the story because I strive to tell a tale out of my own life. (of sorts.) I write from my experiences in different ways. I CHOOSE to write through gay characters. (And the explanation of why to that question has been given in previous blogs.) But in writing gay fiction, there is a stigma. If I wore a shirt that read “I write gay sex”, then people would look at me funny. Like Dexter wearing “I murder people”. (Although, if I end up writing horror, I might have to wear a shirt that says that. Lol) I just can’t go around wearing my declaration for everyone to see. I am selective. I don’t hide like I used to. I think that is why I could relate to Dexter season 5. It was fun, and it was also familiar. Dexter found someone who knew him for who he was and did not shrink away. (I have found the same.) Lumen didn’t judge or try to change Dexter. She accepted him. And without giving away spoilers, it didn’t trun out all roses. Dexter still had the dark passenger to live with and life was still a series of challenges for him to consider how to take, one at a time.

Me too. There are people in my life now who accept me for who I am. Like Dexter though, I am still cautious. I still have to choose who is “safe” to share my “secrete” with. Not everyone can handle my “kinky passenger”. Some people are fine only knowing I write for a living. They don’t have to know WHAT I write. I am working on using the advice my therapist gave me and opening up to some people, not ALL people. I need to be stealthy sometimes. Maybe I could type in black leather gloves? Haha.

Dexter also has a certain amount of anxiety when he can’t kill. His need overtakes him. He HAS to do it. Me too. I have to write. I think it is another commonality because there are those who just don’t get that. A writer writes. Right? Well, if I don’t it hurts. It hurts me mentally and sometimes physically. I feel it like withdraw. I get edgy and frustrated because there is something inside that has to come out. With Dexter the darkness grips him. With me, it is my characters. And in the case of Darian, maybe it is darkness that grips me too. I need to let it out!

I think I have been so long writing because I am wondering what to write. I have 3 stories I am working on, but for me it is the content. I don’t want fluff. I don’t want to write drivel. I don’t want to write what everyone else writes. So, how to I write a gripping tale that is meaningful? IDK. I’m not out to write words for the sake of a word count. I want the words to count for themselves. Ya know?

I guess that is where I am. I am carefully considering the words because I want the novels to get better as I go. I don’t want to publish crap just to have one more out there.

Other news, I have the galley proof of The Cost of Loving. (Which is basically a pdf form showing the fonts and formatting that need a once-over to make sure I’m okay with everything.) I should get a release date soon. The last time I got a galley proof I got a date for Jock less than a week later for a release about a month from that. So, we are looking at mid-August ish. I will blog and shout out loud as soon as I know the exact date!!! Now I have to think about interviews or blogs or giveaways to get readers interested in me and my writing. TELL ME: What got YOU interested in picking up a Wade Kelly book when I was “unknown” to you? Do you have any idea who I can reach readers? What makes readers give a new author a chance? Just wondering.

Catch ya laterz,

Wade

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Me, an inspiration?

The very thought is mind-boggling sometimes. I guess part of it comes from a damaged self-esteem. Ya see, when someone stalks you, wrongly accuses you, and makes you feel insignificant and small it is hard to think any better of yourself. It is easier to believe lies than to think there is anything good you can contribute. I believed the wrong people. I trusted the wrong people. I have been hiding in fear from destructive people full of hatred and judgment.  Has anyone out there felt like this? Have you been made to feel small and evil and unnecessary? Have you been told your life is worthless, your dreams are worthless? I was. I have given in to that assertion for years.

What makes the tide change? What turns that self-hatred born out of ridicule into a positive force bent on changing the world one reader at a time? IDK. I think there are several factors at work in my life that have tried to balance the upset that started in 2010. Finding people who understand me was a huge one. But finding those people without looking was even more meaningful. Personally, I attribute that to God. I believe in God. I believe in His healing and power and grace and mercy and, overall, I believe in God’s sovereignty. That does NOT mean that I fully understand God or how He works. I’m often confused. I go through pain like most people, but pain and trials haven’t deterred me from the faith I have.

When everyone seemed like they were against me, I pushed on. I knew I had a purpose. I found it in writing. I found freedom in the words that fall from my mind. My therapist asked me where I thought I got my inspiration. I answered truthfully: From God. I never found writing easy or freeing until I let go and wrote whatever came to mind no matter the content or the plot or the controversy surrounding it. I felt driven to make people think. There are waaaay too many stigmas out there. Waaay to many people assuming things about others. I want to speak to the oddities and inexplicable conundrums of life. I want to talk about real the struggles and the real questions people have because I have those same questions. Most people want to know WHY? So do I. Half the time I don’t know “why” about anything. So I explore the deep thoughts I have. … lol, they are not always “deep” as evidenced by JOCK. 

But I want to make a difference. I want to feel like I have meaning in my life.

That does not conversely suggest that I do not find meaning in anything else in my life. I DO. My children hold tremendous amounts of meaning for me! But I think that using a talent, which was bestowed by God, holds meaning too. (Derived from my belief we are made by God, and that we ALL have talents in SOMETHING.) I may not have my talent honed like Stephan King, but we all have to start somewhere. Some people, like maybe Beethoven, come out of the womb creating magic. Others need time to cultivate it. Art can be learned, but I think raw materials lie dormant in the “artful” mind that rise to the surface at some point. When the raw materials are seen and grasped, then they can be transformed into something more powerful. <Insert chemistry lesson here. Perhaps something on bleach and ammonia but I’m not that clever, really> LOL!

So, why did I start this blog today? To talk about an e-mail (FB message) I received recently. I often get random e-mails from people. I AM an author and sometimes people are motivated enough to mention that they liked something I wrote. (Do NOT hear this as a blasé attitude toward compliments because I live for them!) I get emails that thank me for writing my stories and I cherish those messages. However, this was the first time someone said… well, what he said.

At around 4pm yesterday I get this message: “Hello, my name is Justin. … I just wanted to say that I love your book ‘My Roommates a Jock? Well Crap!’ I'm not done reading it yet, but I'm loving every page I read. The biggest reason why I'm saying this is because I never liked reading until I started reading your book this year. So thank you very much. I can't wait to read other books you've written.”

My response to that was, “Wait… What? You didn’t like reading?”

We conversed for a bit (love FB IM) and it sounded to me like he was a young writer newly discovering his talents and exploring the concept of actually being good at poetry. (Haven’t all writers been there. Can you empathize? Can you encourage? Can you shout out, “You go, Justin!”?) I WAS THERE. Before 2006 I never completed anything I ever started. Until 2006 I didn’t know I had it in me. Of course it was rough and raw and in need of major edits but it was the moment of epiphany when I could say I wrote an entire story. ME!!!

When Justin sent me that comment, it also brought back the precise memory of THAT BOOK. Not the one I finished writing in 2006 that proved I had finishing power, but that one book from years prior that showed me I liked to read. That ONE BOOK that showed me not everything in school was like Hiroshima, The Red Badge of Courage, or Animal Farm. Not that those books are bad, they aren’t, they are classics, right? But to me I never knew anything else existed until I found The Black Cauldron by Lloyd Alexander on the bookshelf of the school library. I never read fantasy until that book! True, it was a children’s fantasy novel far below my grade reading-level, AND it was the second book in a series (I hadn’t read the first), but it struck me. So  I read it and loved it! It was THE BOOK! From there I learned that I liked reading. Because of The Black Cauldron I soon found David Eddings, Raymond Feist, R.A. Salvatore, Grant Naylor, and Tad Williams. I found that reading wasn’t boring, it was merely the topics I found boring in the novels I was “supposed to” read. The Black Cauldron opened up Science Fiction and Fantasy to me and THAT was AWESOMNICITY!

Who knows? Without discovering reading and the realms of possibility that lurked in fiction, I may have never found Joss Whedon! (What a tragedy that would have been!) *note: Had to throw in Buffy reference because I'm an addict*

So when Justin said he learned he liked reading because he is loving MY BOOK, I felt that tingle of accomplishment. I gave a person that same feeling that Lloyd Alexander gave me. What writer doesn’t feel satisfaction in that? So thank you, Justin. You put a smile on my face and in turn I hope to put more words to pages. I will continue to write the things that mean something to me because someone out there will find meaning in them, I am sure of it! I don't write just for the sake of writing, but for the sake of purpose and fulfillment. And to one day make a difference and impact the world for good. One reader at a time.

Thank you all for dropping by!

Wade

My life gets in the way sometimes.

Have you ever felt like everything just gets in the way of the things you really want to do, but can't because of responsibilities? I feel like that right now. Oh, to be irresponsible sometimes! But alas, I can't. I got things I gotta do regardless of what I WANT to do. Well, except now. I AM squeezing in time to write a blog. Mainly it is so people do not think I died, or that I don't care. I do! I do care! Sometimes I simply run out of things to say because nothing all that interesting "writing wise" is going on. So time slips by and then I think, "Shit! I haven't blogged since....?" And then I feel bad. I know there are at least 20 people that read my blog! I like those 20 people :)

So in the interest of saying hello so you don't think I died, HELLO! I'm here. I'm freakin' busy and I might have to step outside and scream, but I am here!

I DID get the MS for TCOL and the 3rd round of edits. This is good! There are basically 3 stages of edits, unless it is really really bad, but then I bet it would have been rejected if my MS needed that much work. Ya know? It WAS rejected several times in fact. It needed loads of work and now I think the product is almost finished and it looks fabulous! I think the galley proof is the next step. I have only to go over the MS one more time before I e-mail it back and then stage 3 is complete. It has been really good. Three sets of professional eyes have caught lots of things. Some very minor but that make a difference to make the final just that much better. And it is, it IS better!

It is amazing to me that a sentence or two for clarification can go as far as they do. The details in this book are so scrutinized. I LOVE IT!!!!! And I seriously hope you do to. When I have a date, I will let you all know. It has to be soon. Probably a couple weeks to do a galley proof. Maybe get a date sometime in July for an August release. My best guess anyway.

Any ideas of how YOU the reader would like to see promo? (You my 20 fans and followers.) What grabs your attention most for a new release? An interview about the book? A review by your favorite reviewer? A shout out by the author? A "give-away" of a signed paperback? What? How can I best serve you?

Snake update: Another one died. I have him to the vet for a necropsy to see if he has the parasite that is highly contagious. If he has it, they all might die which will be extremely depressing. I've had a couple of them for years. We'll see. I get the results later this week sometime.

Writing... Well, in order to be an writer I guess I should be doing some actual writing. LOL. I laugh because that seems like a joke. No time! All I do is drive, drive, drive, go, go, go! I am writing in my head and I hope to put some thoughts to "paper" this week. Book 3 needs to get written, right?

As I said, my life got in the way. I have children. Basically I am a taxi driver. (One that doesn't get paid per mile.) School has been out for 2 1/2 weeks and I am exhausted! The stupid MITES started the downhill slide into exhaustion. That was a LOT of work. And, those mites started the issues with everything else. I think the one that died had an infection from the mites that just hit him hard and he couldn't bounce back. He was fairly young and not strong enough. I am sad, but I'll get over it. If he has the parasite, then I will be more upset mostly for the other snakes. But since School let out, I've been driving kids all over creation! No time to write because they always want something: a drink, food, lunch, a friend over who needs to be picked up. Swimming lessons, gymnastics, soccer, ear infections, chipped teeth, ENT appointments, and dental appointments, blah blah blah... I can hardly keep up and that is only in the last two and a half weeks! Some days I don't think I'll make it. And this doesn't include some other things my children have been dealing with. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my children! LOOOOVE THEM! But they are very tiring at times. How mothers raise children and have day jobs I do not know. It astounds me. My "day job" is supposed to be my writing. But if I had to live on it, we would all starve. hahaha.

Anyway....... Stay tuned. I'll find some time to write. Writing keeps me sane. Writing is my release. Writing is my therapy. Everything else HAS to be done because it is my life of chaos, but it is the life I have. Children take time. And because I love them, I sacrifice my time for theirs.

More books will be written, I promise!

over and out,

Wade

Just one more thing!

I'm writing my thoughts as I am on the verge of a mental breakdown. One of my snakes now has Blister Disease. I can't handle one more thing. The one died last week. My piebald is on antibiotic injections. NOW my pastel has Blisters on it and online it says it can be fatal. I'm just so done. It seems like all of them are going to die. It is very depressing and now I need to go to the vet again. (And I didn't like that vet.) This makes me very upset. I've had this one for almost 2 years. She is my largest one at 793 grams. I hate this.

I'm sorry, but I haven't written anything in ages. I can't think. Although I think ALL THE TIME. I want to write but never have the time. I need to write to help my mental state but I'm too consumed with every other bit of my life. And now these snakes are going to kill me. I know it is ridiculous to say you love a snake, but I love my snakes. No, they aren't fuzzy. But I think they have personality. I think they are each different.

So, I am around. I'm not dead. I'll try to hope online sometimes. But life is just too crappy for me right now.

Wade

So out of it I don't even stalk myself.

I don't know what happened, but all of a sudden half of June is gone. G.O.N.E. gone! WT*? I have written some, yet not nearly enough. My personal goals were lofty and then real life threw in some obstacles. Right now I think I'm depressed. IDK. I just feel blah and I don't feel like doing shit. This is normally what happens when I don't write. Writing frees my mind. Writing energizes. NOT writing gets me down and I've slid WAY down into utter dismal paralyzed emptiness. Oh gosh I HATE this feeling.......

I also haven't stalked my name online to see if anything is going on. Sometimes reviews get posted and I don't even know about them. I Google my books now and them and catch the reviews that aren't on Amazon or Goodreads. Although, Goodreads is annoying me. If you check the stats of When Love is Not Enough, the review and rating tallies have been zero for like forever! I've tried "recalculating" them, but I've given up. Maybe that is a good thing because then I can't obsess over the numbers. I have none right now.

Also, obsessing over numbers that have dwindled to almost nothing, and threaten to run backward into negatives, isn't getting me anywhere. It doesn't motive. It hinders. It also reminds me that I need to write more. It reminds me how very few people have even heard of me. And, the decrees in reviews and ratings reminds me how fast I would disappear all together if I simply stopped writing. Very few people follow my blog. It has few pages views. And now I'm sounding all "whoa is me." (That is shocking. I never sound like that.)

It makes me go back to a blog I posted in the beginning. Remember those months? When I was so excited to be read AT ALL?? Well, I posted on WLINE being a "slow burn" because it was not a book to set the world on fire all at once. When Love is Not Enough is a book that takes time and slowly sucks people in. I still stand by that. I NEED to write another one like Jock. My Roommate's a Jock? Well, Crap! is the kind of lighthearted romance that gets people smiling and sighing and asking the question, "What else has Wade Kelly written?" What have I written? Not much! Not enough!! I am in the beginning stages of a writing career. But, all writers have to start somewhere. Right?

Hang in there. If you are one of the 200 readers (in the world) who actually LOVE my writing style, and can't get enough of my characters, then you have more stories coming your way. I promise. I am simply slow at delivery. Every rock star started out as a nobody, right? Although... I have to say, I am not arrogant enough to presume to be a rock star. That would be TJ Klune. He's talented, prolific, hot, and in the most adorable relationship ever. So yeah, TJ is the rock star! I'm more like the rhythm guitar player for the band warming up on the fringe stage while he's preforming in the center of the world. Jealous much? (Yeah, little bit.)

But on the other hand, if the readers of the world were depending on ME solely, then they'd starve to  death. The fringe band is always there as a side distraction while the main band takes a five minute break between sets. I'm good for at least five minutes.

I don't even know where I was going with all that. I'm just rambling. Again. About nothing. Again.

I haven't heard from Dreamspinner in a week. Presumably they are working on the 3rd and last set of edits before a galley proof if made. I haven't heard about the cover in a long while. I mean, I have it, but they altered the font. So, IDK, I guess things are moving along.

Sales quarter ends then end of June. (Not that that means anything to you. It's just me thinking out loud.) AND I'm probably out of time to publish another book this year. Probably. If book 3 is rejected then I could still self-pub it by December. If it is accepted, then I will then maybe look forward to have two books release next year. Assuming this is the year I WRITE two books in one year! I still have time for the writing part. I am confident enough in that.

Side note: Snakes are improving. Scale rot down to two snakes. No mites. Dog (puppy) is not peeing or pooping in the house anymore. Less work for me there! Chicken pox are going away. So, "life" is settling down, maybe I WILL get to write more often!!!

What else?????? IDK. I guess I was also thinking over the little things that make people popular--other than writing a hit novel. Things "fangirls" (&boys) latch onto and want more of. If I was a rock star I might do interviews. I might a stats listed on my website. The details of my personal life may not bee so hidden in subterfuge. Would knowing more about me help? Would it be more appealing and gain a larger audience? Or is it just a perk to know things about the author, when really you'd read the books regardless? I want to know. I've been guarded on this topic forever. I did a small "interview"of sorts. Do you want more? Do you need more? Or do I wait until The Cost of Loving comes out and then dig a little deeper into my soul? IDK. I still have things to lose but I am no where near being afraid like I was. Really the last thing for me os to confront people I used to know and tell them what I do now. Once the people who hurt me know I'm not afraid anymore, then really I have nothing left to hide. Wouldn't that be nice? Although, I'd still write as Wade Kelly. Pseudonyms were created for a reason and I think my general privacy is important.

Back to the book like Jock... The one about rock star groupies will hopefully turn out funny and lighthearted. We'll see. That is definitely one I need to finish this year!!! The funny ones bump up sales and pique interest from new readers. That are important.

Ciao for now. Catch you on the flip side. Over and out.

Wade

5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing, June 16, 2013 By  Courtney - See all my reviews Amazon Verified Purchase(What's this?) This review is from: My Roommate's a Jock? Well, Crap! (Kindle Edition) This book has all the right stuff that everyone should be able to read and re-read. I recommend it to open-minded people

5.0 out of 5 stars Fun Read, June 3, 2013

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An absolute fun book to read. I loved just about everything about it, the witty humor was fantastic. Cole and Ellis - I wanted to smack them each a few times... but I adore them. Russell and Rob were hysterical. I'd love to see a sequel on this one.

Living in Chaos

There is a saying, “When it rains, it pours.” Well, I often live in that state. 2010 was the year of hellfire and brimstone, and 2013 is the year of reptile mites, scale rot, basement floods, and chicken pox. And that’s all within a month or so!

As my readers more than likely know, I don’t tend to talk about myself. There have been a number of blog entries that talk about me NOT TALKING. LOL. Blog entries like “Coming Out of My Shell”, “Fully Exposed, but With My Clothes On”, and “Freedom to Be Myself” are examples of the things in my life that have kept me from simply talking about myself. And, as in one blog entry I touch on, talking about myself again to the people IN my life is helping me to feel more free to just be me! I did that yesterday in fact. I was over a friend’s house and we exchanged “stories of our lives” and I think drew closer. She also did not reject me for writing gay romance. She said, “That is so cool that you’re published. I really want to read it!” (“It” referring to one of my books I was telling her about.) I find that the more people I tell in my neighborhood and in my family, and even in my CHURCH, the freer I feel. It is like the binding chains of secrecy are falling off one shackle at a time. I lived so secretive, and may I use the word “closeted”, for so long. YEARS. That kind of hiding is difficult and draining.

Have you ever felt like that? I KNOW there are people who have and do live like that. There are people who keep the “real them” hidden from the world because the world is so freaking unaccepting! But when you hide the real you for fear of rejection, it eats away at self-esteem, pride, and confidence until eventually there is nothing left of your true self at all. You lose yourself.

I got to the point where I didn’t want to lose “ME” and I had to make that choice. I had to expose my secrets to the light of day and to the people who could easily reject everything that meant something to ME. And one at a time, those people are not rejecting me, but accepting me.

(Note: This is NOT a comparison of MY struggles vs. coming out about sexuality. I know that is way more complicated and difficult for some. I am merely talking about MYSELF, and my personal “exposé”.)

I have also said that 2013 would “be my year” in the blog “Weightless in 2013”. I still think that although maybe not in the way I originally desired. I wanted it to be a year I wrote at least two books and published two. I am not sure about the publishing part. YES, I will publish The Cost of loving because that is due to come out in August. (I hope. The date is not confirmed yet.) But in order to publish another one this year I have to FINISH WRITING another one and submit it with enough time for Dreamspinner to process it. Normally that takes about 6 months. With TCOL, I submitted it February 11, contract signed 5 weeks later, and the tentative release of August/September 2013. So really, that is about 7 months with submission. Unless I submit LTLTA soon, I can’t get it published this year. Is that a drag? Yes. And no. If I submit it there is the possibility it would be rejected and then I’d self-publish it. And if it is accepted, then it would just come out early next year. Life doesn’t have to go as I PLAN. I need to just let it happen. To finish writing LTLTA, as well as one other novel, will be huge for me. And I still consider this a goal to attain.

BUT… As my life seems to be sometimes… I live in chaos. My snakes got mites. I wrote about that in another blog. It takes weeks and work to get rid of them. THEN, in the process, my snakes got scale rot. Scale rot is a result of too much humidity. Just like when people take a bath too long you get all pruny, well the snake’s scales look like that. It is also a fungal problem and can get increasingly worse and kill them. My one snake even had blisters. Think of that! A snake with blisters that pop like a pimple. It was nasty! Needless to say, I am working on that issue too and have all but 2 snakes cured. No return of mite that I can see so that’s good too.

As this mite infestation/cleansing goes on my basement had flooded. There was mold remediation where the flood department removed 2 feet of drywall around the walls of my entire basement! Everything was displaced and piled up so we can work on fixing this. Then my husband removed the tub and toilet thinking this the best time to remodel the bathroom. (Yes, I’m married.) Our contractor got gout so he is out of commission right now and the basement is a royal mess. And then, last week, my daughter got the chicken pox! Which then she gave to my other daughter. Luckily my son already had them or he’d be right there with his sisters covered in ichy spots! There is always something in this house. And I told you I got a puppy, right? Yes, the puppy keeps chewing things up and pooping in the house! Puppies!!!!! But he is cute. And he is VERY FLUFFY. (So fluffy I could die!)

I haven’t written anything in weeks. I am so distracted with all the personal crap in my life it isn’t funny. But I am thinking about writing. I come up with scenes and dialogue in my head as I drive everywhere. I will eventually get it out on paper. (Computer.) Will something else get published this year? IDK. But, I don’t think it matters. What matters to me is that I AM writing, and that I am able (more and more) to be myself.

Am I going around soliciting bookstores in my neighborhood to have my stuff and do a book signing? No. Gay lit is still taboo to some. I am branching out and saying that I write gay lit, but I do not tell people my pseudonym any faster than I spout out my real name online. I will get there, but I am not going to threaten the safety of my children. I do NOT want them persecuted because their mom decided to write something that was “unacceptable” to some in the school system or unacceptable to some families and kids they know. I talk to people individually and get a feel for their view points. I have told a few of my kid’s friend’s mothers because it seemed appropriate and one of them really liked reading my books! In this, I think society is changing. People are becoming more and more open to reading books and stories no matter the genre. Will I EVER marry my real name and my pseudonym (Wade Kelly) online so that Googling the real me “Wade Kelly” might come up too? IDK. I don’t think so. There are reasons people write under pennames. Right? Privacy is one huge one.

I am still a tad worried over people in my previous church finding out and causing a big stink. That thought does haunt me. They were very hurtful and the pain lingers. However, people I know NOW are much more forgiving, gracious, and excited to know I’m a writer. Knowing people who accept me for ME helps in the healing process.

Do I fear readers will reject me? Sure. But so far people are awesome. Readers love my writing for the writing. They like the stories. It is about the characters. As it should be. So far, only one reviewer person was angry to find out I was a woman. I can’t help people’s anger and disappointment. I like the name Wade. I picked it because of Wade Wells on a TV show called Sliders. I have even thought of using Wade Wells’ photo as my profile picture for a little bit. I might just do that. (with a disclaimer saying it is not me, haha.) My bio reflects the fact that I am a woman and I have children. My FB page sometimes says “Wade changed HER profile picture”. I’m a “her” online. I try to keep my website up to date. If you want to know something, ask. writerwadekelly@gmail.com  I am becoming more open about myself and my writing than ever before. Someday, I’d LOVE to have a book signing in my hometown! (Wouldn’t that be cool?) For now, I’m Wade. I think it’s a good name. ;)

I have so few followers that it probably doesn’t matter what I write in a blog anyhow. I think one of my blog posts had TWO views. Hahaha. But for the handful of folks who like to hear me rant, this is for you. I stand by my statement, “This is going to be my year!” I am learning to be myself again, and that is huge!

and to requote All Time Low: 

“Manage me, I'm a mess

Turn a page, I'm a book

Half unread

I wanna be laughed at

Laughed with, just because

I wanna feel weightless

And that should be enough...”

...

“Make believe that I impress

That every word

By design

Turns a head

I wanna feel reckless

I wanna live it up, just because

I wanna feel weightless

Cause that would be enough..."

"Maybe it's not my weekend, But it's gonna be my year..."

Ciao for now,

Wade

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